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New Quiz Reveals What Type of Person You are to Live With

Thursday, January 6th, 2011

What’s it Like to Live With Me?

In my roll as a San Jose Wedding Officiant and Premarital Coach I work with a lot of couples that are learning how to live together. This great quiz will help you understand what it’s like for you partner to live with you.

While you are getting ready for work you realize that your dearly beloved has once again used all of the hot watter and you are facing another cold shower. You:

  1. Convince yourself that cold showers are a spiritual experience
  2. Start taking your showers the night before
  3. Ask your loved one to take his/her shower earlier
  4. Get up really early the next day, take an excessively long hot shower and do two loads of laundry making sure that all hot water is gone long before your loved one steps into the shower

An old friend wants to come by and visit. You:

  1. Ask your loved one if they mind having visitors
  2. Say, “excellent, I can’t wait for you to meet my better half. Perhaps we all play a game.”
  3. Say “yes” without asking
  4. Ask your spouse to go out so that you can reminisce about the good old days

Socks, shoes, books and half eaten food are strewn about the house.  Several attempts to get your spouse to clean up after himself/herself have not worked. This makes you feel:

  1. Nothing. It does not bother you
  2. disrespected so you talk to your spouse
  3. like a maid
  4. Concerned about where  to hide the body after committing the crime

After a long day you want to kick back and watch  some good TV. Your spouse is ready to party and wants to go out. You:

  1. Force yourself to get excited and go out with a smile on your face
  2. Go out anyway and try to enjoy yourself
  3. Tell your spouse what you would like and work towards a compromise
  4. Convince your spouse to sit down and watch reruns of Friends with you

You need a little time alone. You:

  1. Pretend like you want to spend time with your spouse
  2. Tell your spouse what you need in a loving way
  3. Disappear for a while without telling anyone where you are
  4. Have a friend call and say that you have been in a minor car accident and will be home by nine.

If you answered 1 to all or most of the above scenarios the following is likely true about you:

  • You consider yourself an easy going individual
  • You put your partners needs in front of yours
  • Or perhaps… you chose your answers while your spouse was looking over your shoulder and you intend to change them later

If you answered 2 to all or most of the above scenarios the following is likely true about you:

  • You know how to be diplomatic
  • Your open and rational style will help resolve conflict

If you answered 3 to all or most of the above scenarios the following is likely true about you:

  • You like things your way; but, are willing to compromise and change when necessary

If  you answered 4 to all or most of the above scenarios the following is likely true about you:

  • You are a strong willed person and may need to post bail in the very near future

Changing Your Name Made Easy

Monday, October 4th, 2010

Many of  brides that I work with as a San Jose Wedding Officiant are overwhelmed by thought of changing their names. They don’t know where to begin or who to contact so they put the whole thing off. In most cases changing your name is quite simple. I have outlined the process below.

  1. Get a certified copy of your marriage license (officially called a marriage certificate) from the same County Clerk’s office that you applied for your marriage license at. Your marriage certificate is typically available three weeks after your wedding ceremony. Some counties allow you to order your marriage certificate online. There will be a small fee.
  2. Go to your local DMV and Social Security Offices and ask them them change your name. In most cases they will let you change your name without going to court when you show them your certified marriage certificate.
  3. Complete your tax return with your new name. Social Security will forward the information regarding your name change to the IRS. It’s a good idea to confirm that the IRS has received this information
  4. You will need to write a letter to the State Franchise Tax Board informing them that you have changed your name. Include your prior name, new name and social security number in the letter.
  5. A list of other organizations your will need to contact is below:
  • San Francisco Passport Agency
  • Bank accounts
  • Credit cards
  • Insurance
  • Investments
  • Legal documents
  • Other bills
  • Any place your name is listed

If any of you have other advice for people wanting to change their names, please post a comment.

The following phone numbers and addresses may be helpful to you:

Social Security Office: 1(800) 772-1213

Franchise Tax Board. Po Box 942840 Sacramento, CA 94240-0000

San Francisco Passport Agency, 95 Hawthorne St., SF, CA 94105-3901,  (877) 487-2778

Changing Your Name Made Easy

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