5 things to remember about including kids in your wedding ceremony:
- Kids are unpredictable. I have seen Ring Bearers freeze while walking down the isle and Flower Girls start a comedy routine during the exchange of vows. Fortunately these situations can be avoided with a little planning. Make sure that there is an adult (preferably a parent) who is ready to quickly scoop children up during any part of the ceremony if it becomes necessary. Asking someone to handle these situations ahead of time is the key. It makes life easier for the kids, their parents and everyone involved.
- Plan for pictures. Nothing is cuter than kids dressed for a wedding so let’s make sure that the pictures are great. These means including the children in the wedding rehearsal and clearly letting them know where to stand so that the photographer can get a great shot. I suggest talking with the photographer ahead of time.
- Let the kids sit down. Flower Girls and Ring Bearers don’t have to stand through the entire ceremony. Have them sit next to their parents or a close relative in the front row after the procession is finished. At the end of the ceremony they can get up and join the processional.
- Don’t give the wedding rings to a child. I know their called ring bearers; but, holding onto the wedding rings is too much responsibility for most 10 year olds. Give the ring bearer inexpensive fake rings and have the best man put the real ones in his pocket. It’s a lot less stressful for everyone that way.
- Praise, Praise, Praise. Children love being in weddings. It’s an experience that they remember for the rest of their lives. No matter how they do, let them know that they are great and that you are thankful for what they have done.